OVERCOMING FEAR & SELF-DOUBT: TIPS FROM A LIFE COACH
Fear and self-doubt can be crippling, preventing us from pursuing our dreams and living a fulfilling life. They often act as barriers,...
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IT'S TIME TO BOLDLY HOLD YOUR VALUE AND ALIGN YOUR CAREER WITH YOUR SOUL'S PURPOSE
IS THIS YOU?
I need to learn how to say no. I never say no. I just took a project that I know I don't have time for. So I'll stay late and neglect my family to do it. All because I can't say no.
I’m always in a hurry. I think "do and get it done and move on to the next thing as fast as I can." I don't think things through. And it’s terrifying.
I'm constantly thinking of worst case scenarios so I spend most of my day panicked.
I make ok money - I'm comfortable, but I couldn't quit my job.
I wish I could be more patient with my kids but I'm exhausted. I'm not present or focused. And I have a mountain of stuff to do.
Motivation - what's that? I have none. I’m constantly pushing myself to go on. It's overwhelming.
YOU'VE FOLLOWED ALL THE RULES. YOU EARNED THE DEGREES, GOT A GOOD JOB AND YOU MIGHT HAVE EVEN STARTED YOUR OWN BUSINESS. YET SOMETHING ISN'T CLICKING.
It’s not like you haven’t tried. You’ve tried harder than 99% of the males around you. You showed up. You put in the hours. You learned your craft. Working hard is not something you shy away from. It’s always worked for you before. But it seems that this time, the old formula of working hard and being perfect just isn’t enough.
You work hard and you’re an overachiever. Yet somehow you remain unfulfilled, you haven’t been getting the results that you deeply desire... You want to feel better. Make other people’s lives better. And you want to earn more than you are now. You want to grow bigger, grow better.
SO WHY AREN'T YOU?
You know you have a soul mission here on this planet. You don’t want to get to the end of your life with a suitcase full of regrets and “what ifs.” But you’re also probably an over-giver and perfectionist. To your own detriment.
I also thought that working hard and being perfect was the superhighway to success. And you know what? It worked. Right up to that point when it didn’t. It turned out all those habits that had gotten me to where I was, were holding me back from what I ultimately desired⸺freedom and fulfillment.
I used to get stressed over checking my email. The phone would ring and I would cringe, dreading the conversation, even if it was an easy one. This was all a natural result of the life events that created me. I was letting what happened to me create me instead of creating the life I wanted. I was reacting instead of creating.
I was raised on a ranch in middle-of-nowhere Montana. I learned that struggling for every dollar was the way it was and that hard work and achievement were the only pathway out. So I followed the rules. I achieved. I was the first person from my high school to go to law school. I was on the honor roll every semester (high school, college, and law school–I’m thorough like that). I was on law review, graduated top 10% of my class, etc. I landed a job at the most prestigious firm in Montana. After two years I quit and started my own firm with a partner. I climbed to the top of my practice area and stayed there for twelve years. I achieved dammit.
BUT THERE WAS A PROBLEM...
I had gone into law because everybody knows that lawyers make good money. After a childhood full of scarcity, I was ready for some dollars. The dollars came. The peace and fulfillment that I thought money would buy did not.
On the outside, it looked like I had everything together. I had a successful business, a brand-new house, and a nice car. I had even gone part-time after my son was born. But on the inside, I was consumed with anxiety and bored with my job at the same time.
That’s when I realized my biggest mistake – while I had been arranging everything perfectly on the outside, I had neglected the inner work. I had been following a rulebook for life that had been written by someone else. I had no idea who I was or what my real desires and dreams were. The real kicker was that I knew that I could not look my kids in the eye and tell them that they could be anything they wanted to be while I was dissatisfied and unhappy with my choices, yet too scared to make a change.
I desperately wanted to Eat Pray Love my way out of this situation, but I was pregnant, had a toddler, and was the primary breadwinner in our family. A months-long trip (or any trip) to an exotic destination was not happening. I knew I had to take my journey on the inside.
I call my time researching the “why does my life suck” question my second law school. It had the same intensity and overwhelming amount of knowledge available, except it was longer and harder than the real thing. There was no one around to give me the “A” or the gold star, to tell me that I was on the right track or that I was even headed in the right direction. I was guided solely by my soul. Since I had been unconsciously, yet systematically disconnecting my mind and body from my soul for my whole life, the search was challenging, to say the least. There was a lot of rebooting, rewriting, and reconnecting that had to happen. I used my lawyer brain, research skills, and analytical mind to find what I call “the root of the root of the root” of many of the problems that professional women struggle with. The mental and emotional blocks that are so unconscious and ingrained that you don’t call them blocks. You call them “truth,” “reality” or “the way things are.”
I LEARNED A LOT FROM MY SECOND LAW SCHOOL. IT INSPIRED ME TO CREATE PROGRAMS FOR WOMEN THAT WERE STRUGGLING WITH THE SAME SHIT SHOW THAT I HAD EXPERIENCED.
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ARE YOU TIRED OF...
Being overlooked⸺for promotions, by the best clients, for the best projects, not noticed for your achievements.
Being the best at working hard, but no one seems to notice unless it’s to give you more work.
Feeling lonely, isolated, and constantly overthinking.
Trying to please everyone all the time and minimizing your own accomplishments.
Feeling like too much and not enough at the same time.
Being hyperaware of other people’s reactions and letting them affect you.
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